When I was a young mother, I wanted to do everything myself. I thought I could. I didn’t want to bother others for help, especially since we lived in a different country when my children were really young. I didn’t have my own family around and I was reluctant to ask much help from my husband’s family because I wanted to seem capable.
Even when we came to the states, I was still in a part of the country where I didn’t have family. We decided to homeschool, AND I already had created ShambalaKids and spent every free moment working on it after the kiddos went to sleep.
What I didn’t realize is that most moms get major burn out if they don’t seek help from others. That’s why the old African proverb of taking a village to raise a child rings very true for me. It’s easier when others help, even if it’s just a little.
As women, we tend to forget about ourselves and focus so much on being everything to our children and our families. We often put aside our own needs and desires as women, as an individual, and sacrifice ourselves for what we consider the greater good.
But let me tell you something,
YOU are extremely important too. 💜
YOU might be able to do everything but are you exhausted? 💜
When is the last time YOU had even a half a day to yourself to ENJOY… not to clean the house, do laundry or make food but to enjoy? 💜
In the end, we grow older and our kids are off to college or jobs and their lives. And who are we now?
WHO AM I? This is a question every retiree faces, and every mother as well. We tend to define ourselves through our children, how well they behave, how they succeed, etc. but it’s time to stop that.
Our children come through us, but they do not define us. We are their GUIDES.
Take the time and REMEMBER who you are NOW.
Ask for that help. Then grab a book and nice cup of tea, or venture out for a hike in nature to reconnect with your soul and the Divine.
Stay true to yourself.
Develop healthy boundaries.
Take mental health days (or half days even).
Pamper YOU.
Love who you are.
Make your personal growth and your spiritual path a priority.
CONNECT with your Divine inner Self, the one that is pure love and light every single day.
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